Jo Cox

Five years ago today my sister stood up to make her first speech in the House of Commons. Like many new members she was nervous and keen to make a good impression. While she had no idea at the time, it turned out to be one of the most influential maiden speeches ever made.

When Jo was murdered a little over a year later the speech went viral. Millions of people across the country realised that Jo was speaking for them when she said, “we are far more united and have far more in common than that which divides us”.

Jo was talking about the community here in Batley and Spen where we grew up and where she had been elected just a few weeks earlier. But her words had a resonance for the whole country, just as they were intended to do.

Community meant everything to Jo. And it was the ‘unity’ in community that mattered most. The coronavirus pandemic has shown that community makes us – and we make communities.

It’s easy to pay lip-service to the power of community, and the togetherness it represents, but in the past few weeks (and, yes, it feels likes months!) we have all seen that power in action around us, whether we live in cities, towns or the countryside, and wherever we are in the UK.

Here in Jo’s constituency there is huge diversity in terms of religion, ethnicity, age, wealth and other factors, but we have ALL felt the impact of the global pandemic in one way or another – whoever we are.

Many of us will have lost loved ones, know people who have been seriously ill or are struggling with mental health issues and many of us are juggling a new work/life balance with children to look after, working from home and dealing with lockdown fatigue. For most of us our lives look very different to how they did only a few months ago. And in the middle of all this, people have been showing the ‘unity’ in community in all sorts of new and creative ways.

The Kirklees Befriending Partnership has seen a huge surge in demand and has responded valiantly with trained staff working alongside compassionate volunteers to support those feeling the effects of shielding and self-isolation, through regular phone calls and socially distanced visits. Local churches and mosques have worked in partnership with food banks and a wide variety of community groups to deliver cooked meals, food parcels and medication to dozens of households.

The council has played its part by backing local ‘hubs’ to support the mutual aid groups who swiftly answered the practical requirements of those in need, whilst on-line poetry, Iftars during Ramadan, gardening, baking, exercise sessions and religious services have all helped those with internet access to stay connected. It is truly inspirational to see the community effort where Jo and I grew up, and I know it is replicated across Yorkshire, and indeed the whole of the UK.

At a national level, through The Jo Cox Foundation, we remember Jo each year at the end of June with ‘The Great Get Together’, which has always been a celebration of strong, united, compassionate communities and an opportunity for people to connect with others outside their usual circle of family and friends. This year the need to stay physically distant poses new challenges, of course, but it doesn’t mean we can’t ‘be together’ and stay connected in other ways.

Jo and I were brought up to have a very ‘glass half-full’ mind-set and to always try and focus on what you can do in any given situation, not what you can’t. So for this year’s Great Get Together there will still be lots of exciting ‘events’ taking place, despite the challenging circumstances.

We’ll be having a ‘virtual’ school assembly, an inter-faith community service, a bake off and an online ‘More in Common’ quiz; we have even replaced ‘Cakes on the Cobbles’ with ‘Cakes on the Couch’! The annual ‘Run For Jo’ will also still go ahead, although this year the runners and walkers will be taking part in their own community so they can follow the safety guidelines, and then sharing their pictures with us to receive their virtual certificate.

So, as I remember my sister, the once shy girl, overcoming her nerves to speak up in parliament, I do so with pride, and of course deep sadness, but also with hope for the future. Because, despite what I have been through, I still work hard to remain optimistic.

Yes – we have seen some poor behaviour during the pandemic (and it would be wrong to pretend otherwise) but we have also seen the very best of humanity. I would give anything for Jo to be here to see how brilliantly people across the country have come together to help and support each other in the face of this terrible virus, because she would see just how right she was to say we have ‘more in common’.

But Jo wouldn’t be sitting back feeling pleased that so many more people now understand the meaning of her words. She’d be asking what we can do next. How can we bottle all that community spirit so it will continue to fortify us as we go forward? How can we encourage people to make a habit of the connections they have built up in adversity to enrich everyone’s lives in better times ahead?

The ‘Great Get Together’ started as a moment in the calendar, to remember Jo and unite our communities. Now at the Jo Cox Foundation we are moving from a moment to a movement. ‘More In Common’ groups like the one here in Batley & Spen are spreading across the country. People are finding ways to strengthen their communities throughout the year and to include everyone in their activities, including those who might otherwise feel excluded or isolated.

I will never ‘get over’ my sister’s murder; it doesn’t work like that with the loss of a loved one; and it will be devastating for so many people who have lost family and friends as a result of Covid-19. Every one of them leaves a hole in the lives of those who loved them which can never be filled, only worked around.

But since Jo was killed, we have worked tirelessly as a family and a foundation to generate as much positive action and energy from the most horrific of circumstances. We weren’t being brave or heroic, we just wanted to create something good out of an appalling situation. Now as a country we have the opportunity to do the same on a much larger scale.

And the Jo Cox Foundation hasn’t been working alone in these unprecedented times. We pride ourselves on our ability to collaborate, and to mobilise and amplify the work of others. We launched the Connection Coalition only a few weeks ago, and have been joined by literally hundreds of charities and organisations, large and small, to work together to look at ways to build on the foundations laid by support groups and other networks in recent weeks.

Just as community makes us, stronger communities make a stronger country. The past few weeks have been tough, very tough, but I do believe that while physically distant we have become closer in many other ways. Let’s not allow all of that to go to waste.  Let’s move forward with strength, compassion and togetherness, and always with ‘more in common’.

Take Part in The Great Get Together

Kim Leadbeater

The Jo Cox Foundation’s Ambassador & Jo Cox’s Sister

You can learn more about the Jo Cox Community Wood here: https://www.spenvalleycivicsociety.org.uk/projects/jo-cox-community-wood

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“The tree sponsoring project was very personal to me and my family for many reasons. We collectively sponsored 6 trees including some individual ones. Each tree was named in honour of someone or after a word which had an important meaning behind it. For example one of the trees I sponsored along with my siblings and parents is called ‘Amal’ which means hope. We were drawn to the idea of watching the trees grow as time goes on. Spiritually I was personally drawn to the idea of the trees benefitting the surrounding environment, including providing food and shelter for the creatures who will pass during the many different seasons. It’s a very sentimental idea of watching them grow and you growing older too…as it’s so local to us we are able to visit the woods often, take a break from the chaos around and be immersed in nature. I’d like to finish off with a quote, that is very fitting for world earth day, by Sir David Attenborough: “People must feel that the natural world is important and valuable and beautiful and wonderful and an amazement and a pleasure.” – Hafeezah Soni

We’d known Jo for several years, and consequently volunteered for More In Common from its inception in the weeks following Jo’s death. Jo’s Community Wood is a wonderful project and a great way to remember and honour Jo locally. Just before Christmas, after 20 years together, Julie and I got married. We’d heard about the opportunity to sponsor a tree in the wood and it seemed like the perfect thing to do, to commemorate our wedding and pay tribute to Jo, so we sponsored two! – Julie & Dave

I sponsored a tree for my daughter Molly in part, to get her involved in volunteering and involved in a local project for a great cause – bringing people together. I thought it would be lovely for her to see her tree grow and flourish as she does for years to come, maybe even bringing her grandchildren to visit and reminisce about when her tree was as little as she was. She’s just gone 5 years old and when I asked her what it meant to her, she told me ‘so that people can remember us in a long long time’. I also encouraged my parents to sponsor a tree at the wood so they can leave their own legacy that we can remember them by when they are no longer with us. It’s so important to have beautiful outside spaces that the community can visit and utilise and we are very lucky to have this on our doorstep. We live a few minutes walk from the wood so have been able to visit and check on our trees during the lockdown – Molly even gives her tree (and her grandparent’s tree) a hug when we visit.

– Nicky

The University of Cambridge Department of Sociology and Murray Edwards College hosted this annual memorial lecture to honour the memory of Jo Cox MP, on the 27th November 2019.

The lecture was delivered by the former Speaker of the House of Commons, Rt Hon John Bercow MP.

Jo Cox MP was a former student of Social and Political Sciences at Cambridge. She dedicated her life to helping others, campaigning tirelessly for a fairer, kinder and more tolerant world. This will be the third annual Jo Cox Memorial lecture, which celebrates Jo Cox’s life and the inspiring work she was involved with.

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